FINDING AN EGG DONOR
Egg donation is an extremely effective way of treating infertility in partners where the woman has early menopause, low egg quality or quantity owing to increase in the age of the female, or other egg or genetic related complications. Nevertheless, even with its great success rates, it is most times tough for a female to handle the circumstance that the child will not possess any of her genetic make-up.
Picking an egg donor is a guileless and straight-forward procedure for some couples, while for others it can very be challenging. Some years back, when we began performing egg donation; this was before the spread of egg donor organizations on the net, there was not much egg donors readily accessible to couples to pick from.
The egg donation world has since improved. Through the start-up and spread of donor organizations, there are thousands of available donors to choose from through these agencies/organizations through the net. And this has made couples become even more precise about the qualities they are require from their egg donor. A "black girls with red hair" will hardly be ample to please recipient couples these days.
What are those essentials couples contemplate before selecting an egg donor?
Recipient couples are very choosy when it comes to features they desire in their egg donor. Below are some of those features that I usually find couples scanning for:
- Physical features similar to those of the female spouse.
- Good looks
- High IQ
- Verified success with egg donation in the past
- Signs of willpower and work principle
I also had another patient who expressed her disappointment about one of our donors, she said she had believed might be great for her, but couldn’t use her eggs because "she is a slut". She claims to know this because “she has had 2 children for 2 different men and she was never married to either of them". I tried to tell her that promiscuity was not a trait that was genetically determined and passed on through genetics. She told me; "Oh yes, it certainly is".
- The recipient needs to be assured and comfortable that the egg donor is good enough for her
- The nuture as opposed to nature debate is very thought-provoking and complex, even I do not claim to be an expert on the matter.
- How much of “What we are" has been encoded in us before birth by distinctions in our DNA (nature)?
- How much is formed by environmental influences, the way we were raised and early life experiences and exposures (nurture)?
- Studies of identical twins that were separated at birth and raised in different families have shown interesting connections with regard to disparities in IQ, personality, and so on.
A perfect example, is that it has been discovered that identical twins raised separately have behaviors that are more alike than would be predictable by chance.
Experts may not reach an agreement on the comparative influence of genetics against environment and nurture in shaping what we are and what we eventually do with our lives. Nevertheless, couples in need of egg donation can resolve on their own the significance of these varieties of features in their donor.